The Risks Associated with Doing A Love Spell (On Someone Else)

If you’ve ever come across an ad selling you a love spell, you’re probably wondering Are love spells real?
Do love spells actually work?

And If you’ve ever done one you know exactly what I’m going to say in this article.
In this article I will highlight some of the very serious risks of using a love spell to reunite with a lover or to keep a lover. I will point out how confidence and clear intuition are your best friends in this situation. And then for those that are interested I’ll share a love spell you can do on yourself to help with your confidence.

It is a true saying: “if you truly love something you must let it go”. True unconditional love is meant to feel like freedom to both parties. Freedom to be yourself and have someone support you through the ups and downs of that discovery journey.

Before we get to the risks, I’d like to offer my Tarot card and psychic reading for clarity to those that are interested in a reading that offers clarity and advice for a painful or confusing situation. See psychic readings for more information.
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If you are in a relationship where your partner is lying to you, disrespecting you, and constantly hurting your feelings this is NOT a safe relationship for you to be in. This is not the type of relationship where it will be better if you stick it out.

If your partner is cheating on you, a spell to keep him or her isn’t really going to help either. In some ways it can make it worse because it leaves you bound to an unhealed person who will find another way to express that pain. There is only so much a person can suppress their pain until it comes spilling out unto everyone around them.

Something you need to understand is that magic on its own is neutral. It is the intentions inside the practitioner’s heart that dictates if it becomes white or black magic. From what I’ve noticed and in very simple terms white magic is used for healing, safety, and overall good things. Black magic is used for personal gain, and to endanger or block other people. How would you be able to tell what’s in a practitioner’s heart if you aren’t connected to your intuition? I ask you this question because some of these people wear really good masks and at that point only your intuition can save you.

Risk #1

You Can End Up Hiring A Scammer

There are scammers in every profession; from mechanics, to contractors, and even doctors. However, everyone is most aware of psychic scammers. These scammers with or without skills target vulnerable people to allow them into their lives and steal their identity and/or money without delivering services. Worst of all they engage in aggressive and harassing behavior when the client doesn’t do what they say. I have written an article about how to identify psychic scammers that you can read here. Be sure that if they reach out to you out of the blue they are a scammer!

Risk #2

You Can End Up Gaining A Stalker

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Let’s say you hired a real spell caster and the person you want does come back and for now you’re happy with the results because you got what you wanted. As the relationship progresses you realize that you’re not compatible, or you have outgrown one another and going in different directions. You do the hard thing and break up with them.

​Because the spell is in place, they do not take it well. Actually, they simply don’t accept it. No matter how many times you try to reason with them, they do not get it. You have now gained a stalker that is trying to win you back even after you’ve been clear that you no longer want to be with them. This can turn into a potentially dangerous situation.

Risk #3

​You Will Have To Pay To Another Fee to Break The Spell

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This can go in different ways. The first way is that you go back to the person that did the first spell and simply pay them again to break it. However things aren’t always this simple. You may want the break up spells years into the future and you can’t find the person who made the spell. This can even happen a year later! You will have to find a new spell caster who may or may not be a scammer.

Another way is to visit one of websites that offer free break up spells, which are DIY. Chances are that if you did not feel confident enough to do it yourself to begin with you will not be confident enough to break it yourself.

Now you’re back to square one. You may find a professional spell caster in one of the free websites that will charge you something for the work, but how do you know they are legit? Or that they won’t cause you more problems than solutions? You don’t.

Risk #4

You Are Interfering with Someone’s Free Will

Now I want you to imagine being in the other person’s shoes. Practice empathy and ask yourself: How would I feel if someone did this to me? Your answer should give you the information you need. There are karmic implications to this situation that I will discuss in a future blog post.

​What Can You Do Instead of a Love Spell On Another Person?

What are other ways you can heal the fear of rejection, reduce stress and worry, and begin to feel good in your own body? Hire an energy healer to help you!

As a Reiki and chakra healer, I can tell you that confidence comes from a healthy root and solar plexus chakra. These chakras or energy centers are located from your abdomen to your pelvis. The root chakra is connected to how you feel about yourself, specifically how safe you feel in your body.

​The solar plexus chakra is connected to your sense of joy, and ability to implement changes that are good for you. This chakra is also the seat of your intuition. This is where the idea of a “gut instinct” comes from. Your solar plexus chakra is right there where your stomach is!

Whether you need help connecting, understanding, or healing any of these places in your body. I can help you.

Ways You Can Help Yourself

You could do a spell on yourself, that is for self-love. This does not result in you falling in love with yourself and becoming a narcissist. In fact, narcissists have deep rooted low self-esteem. Instead self-love spells help you see the beauty that is already within you. The beauty that maybe other people see that you don’t. You could even begin to appreciate your flaws! It can also help break down any negative thoughts you have about your physical body.

You intuition will let you know if a self-love spell would help you at all. You are either going to be attracted to the idea or you won’t and that’s enough of a sign.

The following are spells I can recommend that are safe to do on yourself. I heard about the Honey Jar spell for love or the Honey love spell but as I haven't done them and can't tell you how they work, I cannot recommend them at this time.

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The Flower Bath

This one works really well to break up any negative beliefs you may have about a body or physical flaw. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and things can improve when you change your perspective.

​You Will Need

• A handful of dried Rose petals
• A handful of dried Calendula petals.
• (Actually any amount you can find works)

Fresh rose petals are ok too if you happen to have them. Most shops sell them dried.

Instructions
Draw up a warm bath, cup the dried flowers in your hands and smell their scent, then drop into the water. When you are ready get in the bath. Spend at least 20 minutes in the water with the flowers. Dry off with a clean fresh towel. Drain the water and dispose of the flowers. That’s all. This bath leaves you feeling instantly happy and in some cases overjoyed! You may also, burn your favorite incense or candle to fill the room with your favorite scent.

Alternatively, if you don’t have a bathtub or you don’t want to do a bath. You can buy yourself a bouquet of Roses or Calendulas or a combination of both and keep at home where you can see and smell them.

Remember instead of trying to trap someone to love you or to be with you, which can come with dangerous and expensive consequences, work on yourself. Give yourself some self-love, and that way you will already have love. If you need extra healing, I’m around to help you out.

Until next time,

Stefanie Bentes

Spiritual Advisor & Reiki Healer