insight about making a change

Recently I've been talking to people and noticing a common thread. One that I thought was only applicable to me. It was a good reminder that one; I'm never alone in my experiences, and two, that no one is perfect, no matter how put together they appear. I hope you see that this means that YOU'RE never alone in your experiences. For those struggling with perfectionism like me, I hope this helps you realize that taken to an extreme, seeking perfection, is a waste of your energy. Rather than waste your energy on an unachievable goal, seek to reorient your goals to feeling healthy and at peace.

I feel like the idea of perfection is perpetuated by our inability to open up and be vulnerable. That also goes with saying that we may have had bad experiences when we do, as in we choose to be vulnerable with the wrong people, and then close back up.

We tend to not talk about the things we want to change or the things that are troubling us. I think that we just don't talk about these experiences with the right people and that's where we make a mistake. We'll either talk to someone we feel close to but that person can't relate or even want to talk about things on the same level, or we might talk to people who judge us for talking about taboo topics. This only makes us feel alone and isolated with a problem. So what do we do?

Well, what I've seen and done myself is that we learn to cope with it. We stop looking for a solution, and we just learn to "deal with it".

And then what happens?

We have this area of our lives that is a complete mess and we've resolved or given up on finding a solution for it because we tried, for a little while, or maybe for a long time, and nothing ever came from it. We may even get scared of what the change may bring to our lives.

"I guess this is how it is and I'll just have to find a way to deal."

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