insight about making a change

Recently I've been talking to people and noticing a common thread. One that I thought was only applicable to me. It was a good reminder that one; I'm never alone in my experiences, and two, that no one is perfect, no matter how put together they appear. I hope you see that this means that YOU'RE never alone in your experiences. For those struggling with perfectionism like me, I hope this helps you realize that taken to an extreme, seeking perfection, is a waste of your energy. Rather than waste your energy on an unachievable goal, seek to reorient your goals to feeling healthy and at peace.

I feel like the idea of perfection is perpetuated by our inability to open up and be vulnerable. That also goes with saying that we may have had bad experiences when we do, as in we choose to be vulnerable with the wrong people, and then close back up.

We tend to not talk about the things we want to change or the things that are troubling us. I think that we just don't talk about these experiences with the right people and that's where we make a mistake. We'll either talk to someone we feel close to but that person can't relate or even want to talk about things on the same level, or we might talk to people who judge us for talking about taboo topics. This only makes us feel alone and isolated with a problem. So what do we do?

Well, what I've seen and done myself is that we learn to cope with it. We stop looking for a solution, and we just learn to "deal with it".

And then what happens?

We have this area of our lives that is a complete mess and we've resolved or given up on finding a solution for it because we tried, for a little while, or maybe for a long time, and nothing ever came from it. We may even get scared of what the change may bring to our lives.

"I guess this is how it is and I'll just have to find a way to deal."

And we deal the best way we can, we might even find "help" to distract us from dealing. We take little breaks from the "pink elephant in the room" either by self-medicating or engaging in other toxic behaviors. However, the pink elephant remains, and at some point it grows! Slowly adding stress to our lives, little by little.

We might even get used to that level of stress and brush it off and say "it's fine, it's really fine." I know for me this was one of the sources of my panic attacks. Which by the way, I haven't had a panic attack in 3 years just by reminding myself that I can find a solution. I just have to relax, do some research, and when necessary ask for help.

What I have experienced and seen, and most recently listened to from others is the fact that it starts out slowly, it begins as a small fire, maybe where we can't see it for what it is. We can smell that something is burning but we get used to the smell. We'll even associate comfort with the burning smell because it's been there for so long! Your brain may even convinced you that you've learned to deal with it. Everyone else is dealing with theirs and that's what being an adult is: Learning to cope and deal. I think. I don't believe that becoming an adult is meant to mean that you just learn to deal with the things that are going wrong in your life and then do adult activities to cope with them. After having done that for awhile, I find it to be quite unhealthy. I'm not sure why this is taught to us.

Everyone has that one area in their life that isn't working, and I think it happens the most when we stop being grateful for the things that are working.

Remember we all have that one area in our life that isn't working, and I think it happens the most when we stop being grateful for the things that are working. I don't think anyone is excluded from that. No one is perfect. This is why we need each other. What I know, may benefit you and what you know may benefit me. If we're willing to talk about it and genuinely help each other. As someone who has put a lot of time, energy, and effort into personal development and healing. It is possible to heal and it is possible to change whatever isn't working.

You don't have to just accept dealing with it, especially when there are other people who don't have that problem! Maybe they did just get lucky in this lifetime and simply don't understand why they don't have a certain problem that others seem to have. Ok, these are not the people you are going to ask for advice.

​Think about it in this way, if you have a problem with your weight, and you ask a person who has been skinny their entire life how to lose weight, they will have no idea. They know what to avoid to gain weight, and they know what to do to lose 5-10 lbs and you can follow that advice. Though every Body is different and what works for one person might not work for you. A skinny person will also not have the same insights as someone who has lost 50+ pounds and has kept it off. This example reminds me a lot about one of the many brilliant things The Medical Medium says; taking health advice from young fit people who have never been sick, might actually work against you and can end up making you sick in the long-run.

On my end, I'm noticing that there are plenty of women (men too), I generally talk to women more often, and they happen to be more open about having sensitivities especially after they learn that I'm a psychic. I'm noticing that there are women with psychic abilities that simply want nothing to do with them. I get it, I was one of them too. How I saw psychics portrayed on TV growing up made me want to refuse that aspect of myself. I knew that my sensitivities were with spirits and I didn't know that was connected to being psychic. I thought mediumship was one thing and psychic was another. Not all people with psychic abilities are mediums. One of the facts that we share in the mediumship community is; "Not all psychics are mediums, and All mediums are psychics."

Change can mean improvement, and it doesn't have to be scary.

If I could bottle up the feeling of changing something so big in my life, which I only changed by embracing a natural ability sell it to you. However, such a thing is not possible. Everyone has to do the work that is most appropriate to them to the degree that they want to experience change.

My point is, you don't have to live dealing and coping with the things that aren't working that in the long-run taint other areas of your life. You can experience change and healing if you want it.

I also want to clarify here that change doesn't have to be extreme, it doesn't have to mean the opposite of what you currently have, which is a scary feeling when we frame it in those terms. Change can mean improvement.

Changes I Experienced After I Embraced My Abilities?

1) I began feeling refreshed in the morning.
2) Minor skin issues just disappeared.
3) I stopped being afraid of the dark.
4) I felt more capable of handling life.
5) My curiosity increased.

Late last year, I realized that my sensitivities are not wrong, they are actually the one thing that allows me to help people. Yes, I had to make adjustment to my life in order to honor my sensitivities, and as annoying as it was in the beginning to make these adjustments, it has lead to a more peaceful and purposeful life.

I'm not proposing that I'm going to help everyone with their mediumship sensitivities because in my humble opinion. I have only being doing that work since 2017 and to me it's not long enough to make any promises about what I can do for others in that area. Yes, I have learned a lot! I have even helped a couple of people out of some scary situations that involved evil spirits, and I'm so grateful that my practice and dedication has allowed me to get to that point.

What I am proposing is that I can use my psychic vision to help people identify where the energetic imbalances are, and with my energy healing background I can help those that are experiencing physical problems due to this energy imbalance. And just remind you that you can fix anything that isn't working for you if you talk to the right person.

Hope to talk to you soon,
​Stefanie